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  • Writing | Kalilily Time - Part 2
    slinks defeated from the shameles sun Posted in fantasies gardening metaphors photography poetry writing Mag 211 Posted on March 17 2014 by Elaine Magpie Tales is a blog dedicated to the enjoyment of poets and writers for the purpose of honing their craft sharing it with like minded bloggers and keeping their muses alive and well Each week it offers an image as a writing prompt Mag 211 Feast in the House of Simon 1610 El Greco It was the custom of Simon the Zealot to invite his friends to feast at his home after the sacrificial piety of every Sabbath Of course that meant men only for we women were not allowed to participate in those raucous discussions of politics and providence As a female in his household my task was to keep the wine flowing as freely as did the details of their dialogues Just by being present in that room I learned much about the workings of men and government the subtleties of reasoning and ruling ideas that never insert themselves into the conversations of women The men rarely noticed my presence my purpose was to serve and be silent and I used my role to my advantage And so it went until the day that Simon invited to the table the man who caused a welcome disturbance at his wedding by magically changing barrels of water into barrels of wine While I was attending to other wedding guests when this supposed miracle took place I cannot assert that this actually happened However I did taste the miraculous wine and have to say that I found it quite fragrant Now the day that Jesus joined Simon the Zealot s table everything changed While the debates still agonized over the world s politics and providence they became less heated and more thoughtful as the graceful gestures and soft responses of the man Jesus orchestrated a calmer tone I marveled at the way he could hold the attention of every man there without even raising his voice And there was something about his eyes radiating a warmth and acceptance that penetrated to even the most doubtful heart It was not long after that Simon the Zealot left his wife and family to follow the man Jesus followed him out into the world of politics and provenance joined others who did the same all aroused by the man s gentle promise of a world suffused with peace and harmony fairness and compassion They say that there were some women who followed him as well for he welcomed all who welcomed him I never left the house of Simon the Zealot although sometimes I would dream of solemn eyes that brushed my soul and hands that graced the rest with a merciful yearning Posted in art conspiracy theories dreams fantasies men metaphors non belief writing Sorting Socks Posted on March 10 2014 by Elaine I have over three dozen pairs of socks And that s not counting the ones without mates I can t imagine how I ever accumulated such a stash but it s typical of my reluctance to get rid of stuff Psychological stuff as well as physical stuff Sometimes it works to my advantage for example when my grandson is rooting around for some odd and end for a project he is constructing I usually have whatever it is he needs That reminds me of the earlier version of this book that I bought for him when he was a toddler But like my stash of socks there is stuff I don t need to carry around with me The writing workshop I took yesterday brought that fact home with great clarity Sorting socks is not the complete answer But it s a start Now if I can only get an Amtrak writer s residency that might really give me a fresh start Starting fresh at age 74 Hmm I can be Amtrak s Grandma Moses Ya think Oh bollocks I just realized I put the wrong Facebook url in my application That might knock me out of the running right there Too soon old too late smart Posted in aging contests creativity fantasies learning metaphors personal idiocies writing when blogging was personally new Posted on June 29 2013 by Elaine This is something I posted during my second month of blogging back in 2001 I wrote some great stuff back then I had posted a best of Kalilily for those early days for which the links don t work So when I fix them I ll reprise the post here Big Picture Little Picture So there are some discussions going these days on about the purpose and value of weblogs Oddly enough the other night at my bi monthly group meeting I mentioned that I had begun a weblog and I was asked to explain what that was and why I was doing it and why I just wasn t keeping a journal As I ve said I ve unsuccessfully tried keeping journals before and I write so much slower than I think that I got frustrated and quit I can type almost as fast as I think I got used to doing that at the job from which I retired last year which involved mostly whipping out quick documents for others to share and claim as their own So it s easier to do it on the computer And why don t I just keep a journal on disk I was asked The truth is I admitted is that I m used to writing for an audience And I like having an audience Even my poems are usually written with an audience sometimes of one in mind It s why I ballroom dance I m a performer at heart I need ways to say to the world this is who I am Look at me Pay attention It seems to me that that s at the heart of why everyone else who keeps a blog does

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  • officially announcing the publication of my first poetry chapbook | Kalilily Time
    up to nine feet tall and in the harsh summer storm dances her defiance to the grim arrogance of gravity Psychotherapist poet and author Edward Tick Dream Healing War and the Sou l The Golden Tortoise has said of Frankonis work Frankonis is a poet who is at once easy and difficult She is easy because she is lyrical and familiar and embraces the everyday of loving parenting gardening She is difficult in her demand that we go deeply into the simple and squeeze out the juices of love and wisdom Frankonis lives up to her demand of poets to make the earth grow bones Over the past 50 years Frankonis has had her poetry published in a variety of small presses and online journals many of which no longer exist Earlier versions of several of the poems in this chapbook have previously appeared in The Berkshire Review the Ballard Street Poetry Journal and Mused the BellaOnline Literary Journal In 1998 several of her pieces appeared in the anthology Which Lilith Feminist Writers Recreate the World s First Woman With a BA and MA in English Education from the University at Albany she was accepted by and participated in two competitive poetry workshops offered by the Writers in Residence Program of the New York State Writers Institute For several years she served on the Board of Directors of the Hudson Valley Writers Guild and was co editor of and contributor to Gates to the City the literary anthology for the Albany New York Tricentennial celebration An admirer of all things Joseph Campbell Karl Jung Clarissa Pinkola Estes Ursula LaGuin and the 1940s version of Wonder Woman Frankonis is a perpetual student of feminist archetypes in various mythologies and science fiction When weblogs started to become popular it was not surprising

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  • calling all friends of mine — and b!X’s | Kalilily Time
    to inventory to cataloging to shipping to stocking shelves give them b X s web site where he posts his resume of sorts under about which I quote here just in case He says he s even willing to relocate About The One True b X An eleven year resident of the Portland of Oregon born nearly forty years ago in upstate New York he is a devout agnostic and misanthrope who aspires to be an at least passable rationalist He believes that cynicism only results from first believing people are capable of better and then repeatedly being proven wrong If events were pictures and emotions were sounds his memories would play as silent movies When he was very little he learned the all important lesson that adults don t always know what the Hell they are doing when he revealed to a number of grown men that the reason the ramp on the U Haul truck his father was using to move out of the house was not steady was because they had failed completely to attach it properly During his senior year in high school in response to an uncooperative student newspaper he published several issues The Myra Stein Underground Press named for an infamous teacher who one day disappeared without explanation which despite being an anonymous publication he later saw sitting in his file on the guidance counselor s desk His brief college career in the main was marked by the eruption of controversy over the playing of a bronze Henry Moore sculpture with percussion mallets a debate which landed him in The New York Times and ultimately led to him writing the night before it was due a well received term paper on social drama Prior to moving to Portland in 1995 he helped organize the S 314 Petition one of the first large scale Intenet petition efforts which sought unsuccessfully to prevent passage of the Communications Decency Act although it did yield him an appearance in Rolling Stone Shortly after moving to Portland in 1997 he become co owner and then sole proprietor of the Millennium Cafe which he then ignominiously proceeded to run into the ground but not before holding two successful July 4th events at which people read aloud the Declaration of Independence From late 2002 through late 2005 he published the critically acclaimed Portland Communique an experiment in reader supported independent journalism whose departure is still lamented by some today although likely not by the people who falsely accused him of taking bribes in exchange for coverage Sometime in 2003 he discovered The Finger a zine apparently published by Swan Island shipyard workers during World War II which he made available online and for which he has perpetually delayed plans to make available as an on demand reprint In early 2006 he founded Can t Stop the Serenity an unprecedented annual global event consisting of locally organized charity screenings of the Joss Whedon film Serenity to benefit Equality Now which to date

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  • B!X | Kalilily Time
    and then repeatedly being proven wrong If events were pictures and emotions were sounds his memories would play as silent movies When he was very little he learned the all important lesson that adults don t always know what the Hell they are doing when he revealed to a number of grown men that the reason the ramp on the U Haul truck his father was using to move out of the house was not steady was because they had failed completely to attach it properly During his senior year in high school in response to an uncooperative student newspaper he published several issues The Myra Stein Underground Press named for an infamous teacher who one day disappeared without explanation which despite being an anonymous publication he later saw sitting in his file on the guidance counselor s desk His brief college career in the main was marked by the eruption of controversy over the playing of a bronze Henry Moore sculpture with percussion mallets a debate which landed him in The New York Times and ultimately led to him writing the night before it was due a well received term paper on social drama Prior to moving to Portland in 1995 he helped organize the S 314 Petition one of the first large scale Intenet petition efforts which sought unsuccessfully to prevent passage of the Communications Decency Act although it did yield him an appearance in Rolling Stone Shortly after moving to Portland in 1997 he become co owner and then sole proprietor of the Millennium Cafe which he then ignominiously proceeded to run into the ground but not before holding two successful July 4th events at which people read aloud the Declaration of Independence From late 2002 through late 2005 he published the critically acclaimed Portland Communique an experiment in reader supported independent journalism whose departure is still lamented by some today although likely not by the people who falsely accused him of taking bribes in exchange for coverage Sometime in 2003 he discovered The Finger a zine apparently published by Swan Island shipyard workers during World War II which he made available online and for which he has perpetually delayed plans to make available as an on demand reprint In early 2006 he founded Can t Stop the Serenity an unprecedented annual global event consisting of locally organized charity screenings of the Joss Whedon film Serenity to benefit Equality Now which to date has raised more than 200 000 making it far more important than any of the many other Whedon related fan efforts or websites for which he s been responsible Late in the Fall of 2007 he helped launch Fans4Writers a grassroots effort to support the Writers Guild of America in its strike against the Alliance of Motion Picture and Television Producers although he was involved only long enough to get the website up and running He no longer is employed at The Great Northwest Bookstore and would not necessarily object to working at another

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  • Photography | Kalilily Time
    and then repeatedly being proven wrong If events were pictures and emotions were sounds his memories would play as silent movies When he was very little he learned the all important lesson that adults don t always know what the Hell they are doing when he revealed to a number of grown men that the reason the ramp on the U Haul truck his father was using to move out of the house was not steady was because they had failed completely to attach it properly During his senior year in high school in response to an uncooperative student newspaper he published several issues The Myra Stein Underground Press named for an infamous teacher who one day disappeared without explanation which despite being an anonymous publication he later saw sitting in his file on the guidance counselor s desk His brief college career in the main was marked by the eruption of controversy over the playing of a bronze Henry Moore sculpture with percussion mallets a debate which landed him in The New York Times and ultimately led to him writing the night before it was due a well received term paper on social drama Prior to moving to Portland in 1995 he helped organize the S 314 Petition one of the first large scale Intenet petition efforts which sought unsuccessfully to prevent passage of the Communications Decency Act although it did yield him an appearance in Rolling Stone Shortly after moving to Portland in 1997 he become co owner and then sole proprietor of the Millennium Cafe which he then ignominiously proceeded to run into the ground but not before holding two successful July 4th events at which people read aloud the Declaration of Independence From late 2002 through late 2005 he published the critically acclaimed Portland Communique an experiment in reader supported independent journalism whose departure is still lamented by some today although likely not by the people who falsely accused him of taking bribes in exchange for coverage Sometime in 2003 he discovered The Finger a zine apparently published by Swan Island shipyard workers during World War II which he made available online and for which he has perpetually delayed plans to make available as an on demand reprint In early 2006 he founded Can t Stop the Serenity an unprecedented annual global event consisting of locally organized charity screenings of the Joss Whedon film Serenity to benefit Equality Now which to date has raised more than 200 000 making it far more important than any of the many other Whedon related fan efforts or websites for which he s been responsible Late in the Fall of 2007 he helped launch Fans4Writers a grassroots effort to support the Writers Guild of America in its strike against the Alliance of Motion Picture and Television Producers although he was involved only long enough to get the website up and running He no longer is employed at The Great Northwest Bookstore and would not necessarily object to working at another

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  • Caregiving | Kalilily Time - Part 2
    I logged onto online forums on the subject of symptoms and care I subscribed to Care ADvantage magazine to get tips on what to look for and how to help her manage the changes I could see in her behavior and her perceptions of what was going on around her My brother and I brought our mother to the emergency room last Sunday after she had refused to eat or drink for several days was obviously dehydrated and had begun to tune out the world In retrospect perhaps we should have let nature take its course and she might have simply gone to sleep at some point and never woke up But she seemed in severe distress couldn t find a comfortable position to lie or sit in and finally unsuccessfully tried to sleep sitting up She had stopped communicating and kept rubbing her legs We couldn t tell if she were suffering and so we took her to the hospital She is sedated now as comfortable as possible during this time when her body is shutting down Her awareness already has except for brief and seldom moments when she is physically disturbed and then responds with wide open red rimmed eyes and an unearthly howl that resonates with a primal fear I have slept in her hospital room every night since she was admitted last Monday listening to her labored breaths and getting up to check her when her breathing stops for several seconds at a time When my brother comes to stay with her during the day I take some time and slip away to shower change my clothes eat something other than hospital cafeteria food walk in the crisp fall sunshine The time drags while I am sitting in that room with a partial view and so I knit read play games on my iphone check in with FaceBook and my son s Twitter check my email But this isn t about me Or is it Posted in aging blogging caregiving death and dying dementia family health knitting loss I am a victim of elder abuse Posted on July 18 2010 by Elaine from Elder Abuse and Neglect In emotional or psychological senior abuse people speak to or treat elderly persons in ways that cause emotional pain or distress Verbal forms of emotional elder abuse include intimidation through yelling or threats humiliation and ridicule habitual blaming or scapegoating Nonverbal psychological elder abuse can take the form of ignoring the elderly person isolating an elder from friends or activities terrorizing or menacing the elderly person OMG There it is That s why I moved out from living with my brother and trying to take care of my mom who still lives there I kept trying to tell him to stop but he just kept on I m an elder and that s abuse And now I have to figure out how to get my mom away from him because at 94 and with dementia and a slate of physical problems she can t just move out the way I did Boy did I make a series of bad choices as I tried to be my mom s caregiver I ve been trying to remedy my situation since and now I have to figure out how to remedy hers What I find really interesting is that while I was on an anti depressant I never got mad enough to fight back no holds barred Now I m off the drug and I m really mad And I m fighting back Posted in aging caregiving dementia family health day 3 of dementia immersion Posted on July 10 2010 by Elaine She tries to comb her hair with her toothbrush and brush her teeth with her comb That s pretty much a metaphor for where my mom s mind is And this is my 3rd day here with her and my brother trying to ignore his rants against my caregiving techniques while keeping my spirits up so that I can be of best use to my mom Every once in a while she does have a lucid moment Soon after I arrived she looked at me smiled and then started to cry I m so happy happy to see you Several minutes later she asked me What is your name Sometimes she calls me Pani which is the Polish equivalent of Mrs In those cases she knows I m someone who helps to take care of her but forgets who I am Sometimes she calls me ciocia which means aunt in Polish and she thinks I am one of her many aunts all long gone whom she knew as a child Sometimes she hugs me and says You are my mother But mostly she vocalizes quick pants of a ah a ah a ah for hours on end refusing to take even a tylenol I am only here for a while once a month My brother who has CONTROL but no real self control keeps her with him and does the best he can by himself They both need more help but he won t bring any in I m doing my best to keep my reflux and back spasms under control How long I last here depends I keep reminding myself that she won t live forever even if right now it sure feels like it While she s napping I m going to wash my hair Posted in caregiving dementia family health independence Posted on July 4 2010 by Elaine There is a lingering scent of bug spray throughout the house this July 4 left over from yesterday s cook out and trek down the street to watch the fireworks I had the option of not hanging out in the 90 degree heat with the forty something aged parents and their young kids and not standing around in the mosquito and Japanese beetle invested night with the hundreds of others necks craned to the sky I chose to hang

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  • my “walker purse” project | Kalilily Time
    for the women men seem to just load up their pants pockets So my new project is designing and making walker purses An online search for walker bags turns up all kinds and sizes even some hand made One of the women in the memory impaired unit has a beautiful quilted one which must have cost close to 40 I like combining yarn and fabric so I made a couple of samples that I m going to ask some of the women to try and and let me know if they find them useful If they do maybe I ll make more and try to sell them through the facility s gift shop or online Like all walker bags mine loop over the front bar providing an accessible pouch for a few necessities They are 10 inches wide and 6 inches deep are lined with the fabric trim and are fastened with velcro I m wondering if I need to add a zipper along the top although that would be a lot more work and would therefore make them more expensive This entry was posted in aging caregiving creations creativity crochet volunteering by Elaine Bookmark the permalink 2 thoughts on

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  • dealing with that disturbing “D” word— being a midwife to the dying | Kalilily Time
    s book quoted above I have had a chance to read that book myself And doing so comes at a particularly relevant time in my life as I await my first assignment as a hospice volunteer During the intense training that I had to undergo I learned about my role and responsibilities as part of a hospice team and examined my reasons for choosing this kind of volunteer service I found that the experiences that Keyssar shares in her book take whatever personal motivations I have for becoming in her words a midwife to the dying and draws them into an even greater context of compassionate and cosmic significance As part of her stories Keyssar reiterates the point that it doesn t matter what one believe about an after life the focus of her message is to live fully while embracing the fact that we after all are all terminal At the end of her book she provides a list definitions internet links and bibliographical references if the reader chooses to further explore the range of information available about compassionate care during the final stages of life The final chapter in Keyssar s book is a poetic Epilogue see below that captures the intent and the spirit of the mission of those who choose to honor and celebrate the final fleeting days and sometimes months and years of a human life by becoming part of a palliative care and or hospice team Epilogue Job description For Any Member of a Palliative Care Team I am here to witness the sacred hearts broken open Friends lovers families whose loved ones die in their arms in the homes in their beds in hospitals or other places Peacefully nor not I am her to witness the sanctity of human life as the spirit

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